Guadamour’s blog post
Jan. 19, 2008
On Motherhood & Other Topics
NOTE: I don’t feel in anyway qualified to write on this topic, however I do have a view and opinions. I wouldn’t be writing this blog if I had not made a few comments to a friend of mine. She suggested I write this, and she knows who she is, and I thank her for her support. The opinions are my own whether anyone agrees with them or not.
I was born in 1948 and at that time there were approximately 2 billion people on the planet. By 1970 there were over 3 billion people on the planet. Currently we are rapidly approaching 7 billion people. More than half the people currently living on the planet are under 30 years of age, and in the prime child bearing years. Thus the population of the world will rise exponentially. Ironically the population of the United States, Western Europe, Japan and a few other industrialized countries is aging rapidly, and they are worried about meeting labor demands and fulfilling social obligations.
The sexual revolution of the 1960’s and 70’s seemed to add fuel to the already exploding population. After the 1970’s it became socially acceptable for a single mother to raise her child or children. What does all this really have to do with motherhood, one might ask. By definition, every child has to have a mother because no one has yet come into this world without having a mother. The quality of the motherhood offered a child is what is truly important.
In many parts of the third world and in isolated instances in the first and second world girls in their early teens and even younger are giving birth to children whom they are not prepared to take proper care. This disadvantages the child, and when the child grows will much more likely be involved war or mired in poverty with little if any hope of advancing his or her situation. or possibly be involved in crime.
This is not what any mother wants for her child. As I was thinking about writing this blog early in the morning, I came across a pertinent quote by retiring UN Secretary General Kofi Annan. He said, “Discrimination against women of all ages deprives the world’s children–all of them, not just the half that are girls—of the chance to reach their potential.
‘Where men control the household, less money is spent on health care and food for the family, resulting in poorer health for the children.”
“THERE IS NO BETTER TOOL FOR DEVELOPMENT THAN THE EMPOWERMENT OF WOMEN.”
What the Secretary General is stating is that the mothers of the world hold the future of the world in their care, and he emphasizes food and health care, but I believe that proper motherhood involves a great deal more than that.
In my experience and travels around the world, the happiest, most content and successful people are always ones who have had loving and caring mothers. I have met people that couldn’t maintain a relationship, unable to express their love, because they felt that they had never received love from their mothers. I have also met people who struggle all their lives, never really succeeding, and when I’ve talked to a few of them, I discovered that their mothers were domineering and never let the child explore his or her potential. Still others, when anything goes wrong they go running to their mothers. Then there are those that blame all their problems on their mothers.
The balance of loving, nurturing, caring for and guiding a child is extremely difficult to navigate, but it is of utmost importance to the world. In the current situation of seemingly endless war, conflicts, droughts and famines, a properly loved and cared for child can save the world from unending turmoil. In general, if a child feels properly loved, is nurtured and has adequate food and healthcare, that child cannot but help and love others. I believe all mothers want this for their children, and it isn’t contingent upon religion, race or culture.
Motherhood is the most important phenomenon in the world because the mothers are guiding, nurturing and building the future of the world, and the governments and societies of the world have an obligation to meet the needs of their mothers. Meeting the needs of mothers and motherhood does not involve killing their children in wars and other mindless conflicts.